As business-oriented people, it’s easy for us to become content in our way of leadership and productivity. In fact, it’s against human nature to place oneself in uncomfortable situations. Despite our innate “go with the flow” nature to reach the next phase of success in our lives, we need to become comfortable with being uncomfortable. But we can’t do it alone. Usually, the best people that help push us to the next level manifest in the form of mentors and experts in our field of interest. If you find yourself struggling to find these inspirational people, you’re following the best option is to attend a conference. Conferences are excellent hubs for people seeking to make a drastic change in their lives. Recently, I had the privilege of attending Tony Robbin’s event in Miami, FL, Unleash the Power Within. My time there transformed not only the way I viewed the world but also myself. So, to give you some insight into the powerful lessons I learned at the conference, I summed up all the information I absorbed into five main points:
In our fast-paced world, it’s easy to forget to give thanks. We are always on the move looking to see what we can invest in next. With that rapid mindset, oftentimes, we neglect to appreciate what we already have. The air we breathe, our loved ones, friends, and abilities to reach our goals are all blessings and should be treated as such. When we begin to appreciate the people and things in our lives, we start to treat them with more respect and gratitude. One of the reasons that having a grateful mindset is of utmost importance for achievers is because it helps you realize what you should be focusing on in life. The mistake many people make is trying to equate money to their ultimate source of happiness. In reality, you can have all of the money in the world and still be miserable. Therefore, practicing small acts of gratitude, such as taking your parents out to lunch or sending an appreciation text to your friends can take you way farther than focusing on superficial objectives.
Success is 80% Psychology and 20% Strategy
Success is a mind game. What do I mean by that? Well, have you ever wondered why some people have achieved success and why others haven’t? Time and time again, people try to make the argument that things beyond our control are the primary reasons behind why we haven’t reached out peak level of success. That’s falt. Success is 80% psychology and 20% strategy. So, the majority of what it takes to be successful takes into account our physiology and how we view ourselves. For instance, confident people exude confidence. When they walk in the room, their posture is straight, they meet people at eye level when talking to them, have firm handshakes, etc. On the other hand, those who are insecure have a totally different demeanor. They look down when spoken to, avoid eye contact, and slump when they walk. I say that to say, before you achieve your goals, you have to be confident. By doing so, you tell the universe that you are ready to handle the struggle that comes along with accomplishing your aspirations. The last 20% of success is strategy. The strategy aspect of success consists of making a plan and following through. It’s not just enough to have these goals; you need to also be calculated in the way you go about reaching them.
Level Up Your Friend Group
“Show me your friends, and I’ll show you your future.” We are who we hang around and thats a fact. Besides family members, friends play an integral role in helping us determine our values. In addition, they also are our aids when it comes to accomplishing our goals. Right now, think about your circle of friends. Do these individuals challenge you? Do they inspire you to be better? Have they tried to help you reach your goals by providing you helpful resources and connections? If the answer to one or more of these questions is no, you might want to change your friend group. As harsh as this may sound, this might be the reality check you need. Friends aren’t just meant to be space filler in your lives that you occasionally go out to eat with. Rather, friends are meant to be individuals that we can engage in a reciprocal relationship with exchanging advice, connections, and wisdom. Remember, bad company corrupts good intentions every single time. Some tips for making new friends include integrating yourself in circles with high achieving people in your field, attending conferences, or even reaching out to people via social media.
Raise Your Standards
What are your standards? No, seriously. What is the level of quality or attainment that you strive for every day? While most people have standards, few people have standards that force them to reach the next level in their lives. For example, the only difference between someone who is overweight versus someone fit is differing levels of standards. The obese person does not prioritize going to the gym or investing in the proper nutrition plan because these things are not a priority to them.
Conversely, the person who is extremely fit has a different mindset. For them, going to the gym, eating right, and taking care of themselves is not an option but a necessity. So, their actions reflect this goal. Setting a new “must” for ourselves is the only thing that can bridge the gap between where we are now versus where we want to be. Therefore, we need to do some introspection to ask ourselves what we want. Once we do this, setting a plan in motion to stop settling becomes much more straightforward.
Create Empowering Stories that Help Diminish Your Limiting
Human beings do not like being uncomfortable. Find this hard to believe? Well, I want you to think about your own life. Have you ever had a goal you wanted to achieve but talked yourself out of it? Many people walk around proclaiming how difficult it will be to achieve to their goals. Let’s say someone wants to start a business. Rather than go headfirst into the business field, they subconsciously try to talk themselves out of it by uttering things like, “Starting a business is hard.” or “I don’t have the resources to start a successful company.” What this does is create limiting beliefs that sidetrack us from our goals before we even begin to pursue them. It also creates an unhealthy mindset of projective failure and makes us a victim of our circumstances. To proclaim our power, we need to start by changing the narrative. Turn the phrase “Starting a business is hard” to “Starting a business may be difficult, but I have the connections to get it done.” Small changes like that can completely change the way we view our ability to create success.
Tony Robbins conference left me with a feeling of gratefulness, empowerment, and security. I hope by sharing what I have learned from this experience that you can implement these lessons for yourselves. As leaders, we are also bettering ourselves, so don’t be afraid to try something new through the lessons I provided in this piece.